I came across some good advice while reading this week. If you’re like me, you spend most of your time thinking about all of the things that are on your “to-do” list and you try to figure out how you’re going to do them all. Or, sometimes, I think about things that have already happened. Maybe I messed up my presentation at work or had a fight with my boyfriend. People dwell on these kinds of things all of the time.
The book I was reading made a very good point. If you’re constantly thinking about the past or the future, how can you enjoy the present? In other words, you’re making yourself unhappy by stressing out about things that you can’t control. At the same time, you’re missing what’s happening right now.
I know I do this all the time. For instance, I was at the movies this past weekend. I was with my good friend and we were seeing a movie we’ve had our eye on for weeks. I was looking forward to it and my friend and I were both in a great mood. Then, I saw someone across the theater who looked like my co- worker. It wasn’t her but it got me thinking. I thought about the report I had to do on Monday and how much I hated working on it. Then, I thought about my co-worker who wasn’t pulling her weight. The more I thought about it, the more angry I got. By the time the movie started, my mood had changed completely. I was stressed out.
Where did all of that thinking and worrying get me? Nowhere. My new resolution is to try to stop obsessing about the past and the future so much, and to just enjoy the here and now.
Lucy told us about how she dealt with or how she handled the difficulties of life. Let’s talk a little bit about what she said.
She started by saying that she came across some good advice, when she was reading this week. To come across something is to find something even though you aren’t necessarily looking for it. For example I was going through my filing cabinet where I keep my files, my papers and I came across an old photo of my friend, I wasn’t looking for it but I found it.
Lusy also mentioned that, she spends a lot of time thinking about her to-do list or the things she has to do, but sometimes she thinks about things that happened in the past. For example, she said that she was thinking about how she messed up her presentation at work. To mess up something is to do a poor or do a bad job, to messed up means to make a mistake. The other expression and this is an informal expression is screwed up. I screwed up. Screwed up is a little more informal, messed up is a little more acceptable for day-to-day conversation.
Lucy mentioned that people often dwell on these kinds of things, or their mistakes for example, or their problem. To dwell on something means to think about it, but think about it too much, don’t dwell on the past is a common expression means don’t think about the past too much, because you can’t do anything about it. The book that Lucy was reading according to her made a good point. A point hear means an idea, or a good idea, or an argument often in favor of one thing or another. So you can say, you have a good point there meaning the idea that you expressed is worth listening too, it’s worth considering.
There are some other expression for reuse this word in the same context, I see your point, means I understand your point, we used the verb to see, I see your point. The question what’s your point? Is the same idea, in other words what is your idea? What is your argument? But it has a somewhat negative aggressive context to it or idea behind it. You’re arguing with someone and you say well, what’s your point? It’s not a nice thing to say, we sometimes say it when were getting angry or getting frustrated.
Another expression that Lucy used, was in other words. In other words means simply to say something or express something in a different way, we use that phrase in other words before saying something that we’re going to explain in a different manner in other words.
To stress out Lucy said that she was making herself unhappy by stressing out. To stress out means to worry about, to be concerned about something, so much that it bothers you, it causes you problems.
Lucy gave the example of when she went to the movies, this past weekend. This past weekend means this previous weekend or the weekend before today. If today is Wednesday this past weekend is the Saturday and Sunday before today. Also we use the term last weekend. What did you do last weekend? Meaning the weekend prior for previous today.
Lucy said she and her friend went to see a movie, they had their eye on for weeks. To have your eye on something usually means that you want something. We typically use this expression when we want to buy something, but were not quite ready, were still thinking about it, but you’re very interested in it, you desire it, you want it. I have my eye on an iPod but I haven’t bought it yet.
Lucy said that she and her friend were in a great mood. A mood just means how you are feeling, how your attitude is, you can be in a good mood, you can be in a great mood, you can also be in a bad mood, when you’re not feeling very well. When I say feeling well I don’t mean physically how you’re feeling like your sick, I mean how you feel mentally what your attitude is.
There is another expression that Lucy used, pulling her weight. She was talking about her coworker, the person she works with, that wasn’t pulling her weight, this expression to pull your weight, or to pull your own weight means to do your part, to do what you have responsibility to do. To say someone isn’t pulling her own weight or his own weight means they’re not doing their part of the job or their part of the work.
Lucy mentioned that this worrying about things and thinking about things was not something that she wanted to continue doing and so she made a new resolution. A resolution means a promise that you make to yourself ,in this case. We often talk about our New Year’s resolutions meaning in the first of January it’s a new year, I’m going to try to do certain things, I’m going to loose 10 pounds, I’m going to eat better food, more vegetables and so forth, that’s a resolution, it’s a promise to yourself, that you try to keep.
Lucy said she is going to try to stop obsessing about the past and the future so much. To obsess about something is to think about it all the time, to always be thinking about it in the back of your mind. It’s a negative, has a negative meaning here, it’s usually considered a bad thing to obsess about something, to think about it too much.
Lucy instead said she’s going to try to enjoy the here and now. The here and now means the present. What’s happening at this minute, at this moment. To enjoy the here and now means to enjoy what’s going on in your life, right now. Not bad advice I woud say.
My computer has been acting up on me. It’s a pretty old model, and I need to replace it. So I decided to call up my friend Kevin to ask for his two cents. Kevin is a computer whiz. He knows PC really well since he worked on them for years, but in his heart of hearts, he is a big Mac fan. So, I thought he would be good person to ask.
I have always used a PC. I do mostly word processing so I don’t need anything fancy. But, I see people I know doing cool things with photos and video, so I’d like to take a crack at some new programs in the future.
Well, I called up Kevin to tell him what I needed. He immediately started throwing out specs: “You need at least a 2 Gigahertz processor and 1 Gig of memory, and make sure it has a writable DVD drive.” “Whoa,” I said. “All of that is way over my head. Let’s back up for a a minute.” Then he laughed and said he had gotten carried away .
“Okay,” he said. “Let’s start at the beginning. Now, the processor determines how easily and how fast you can use the programs on your computer. Got that?“
I said that I did. Then he continued, “How much RAM memory you have is very important, too. Your computer will go faster the more you have. So, I recommend getting at least 1 Gigabyte of RAM memory.” “I think I’m following you so far, ” I said. “Great,” he said. Another thing you want is a drive that handles both CDs and DVDs.
Some drives can just read DVDs and some can record onto blank ones. If you want to burn your own videos, you’ll want a writable DVD drive. Remember though, that’s just the computer itself. Don’t forget that you’ll need a monitor, a keyboard, a mouse, and speakers.”
“OK,” I said. “I think I’ve got all that. Now, here’s the burning question: Mac or PC?
He said: “Now that’s a whole different thing. Do you have a couple of hours? ”